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An anonymous man on Reddit says his wife of two years has thrown away his home videos from his marriage with his first wife, who died in a car accident years priorThe man writes that he sad saved “little tapes and snippets” of his first wife’s pregnancy to give to their daughter when she turned 18Now, the daughter’s birthday is coming up and the tapes are goneA man says he’s unsure how to respond after his current wife threw away videos he had saved of his late first wife, telling him he needs to “move on.“In a post shared toReddit, the man writes that he has a daughter, Eleanore, with his late wife Cloé, who died in a car accident involving a drunk driver more than a decade ago.The man adds that he met his new wife, Wendy, five years ago, and the two have been married for two years.Eleanore will soon turn 18 and, as part of his gift to her, the man was saving his home videos from Cloé’s pregnancy.“Since it was our first child we bought a video camera and made little tapes and snippets of her whole pregnancy. Wholesome things such as us just joking around or having lunch, or talking to our unborn child through the camera,” he writes. “We made a promise to [not] show Eleanore the tapes until her 18 birthday.“But when he brought up his plan to Wendy, he “noticed her expression going from happy to looking a bit uncomfortable.“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.“Wendy would always get uncomfortable when I talk about my late wife. I don’t say things like ‘why can’t you be like Cloé’ or ‘Cloé was only supposed to be my first love,’ but I talk about her in a way to give my daughter a mental picture of how her mother was like,” he adds.After he sensed that Wendy felt “jealousy” toward his first wife, he told her “that I love her just the way she was and she broke down crying.““The next day after that incident she came up to me and apologized for the way she acted,” he writes. “I told her it was okay and it’s good that she felt comfortable to share her feelings, and I gave her a tight hug and a kiss on her forehead. She asked to see where the tapes were at and I showed her the box of video tapes of my late wife in my closet.“But one day later, the man noticed the tapes were gone.“I looked everywhere to the point I walked downstairs to see my wife laying on the couch watching tv,” he writes. “I asked her about the box and she told me she threw it away with a neutral expression. My heart dropped and I asked her what did she mean, and she told me that I talk about her too much and that I need to move on with my life so she threw them away as a ‘head start.’ “He continues: “I was fuming with anger because not only she threw away what I had left of her, she threw away my daughter[’s] big surprise. We quickly got into an argument and she noticed how angry I was so she started apologizing. It got to the point I started crying and locked myself in our bedroom.“Now, the man writes that he is ignoring his wife, who is “texting nonstop about how sorry she is.““It’s getting to the point our mutual friends are texting me to accept her apology and get over it since Cloé died over 10 years ago but I’m trying to ignore them all because they never had someone so close to them died,” he writes, adding that he’s worried he’s “overreacting.“But Reddit users disagree, arguing that Wendy was entirely at fault.“She robbed a daughter of the only small piece of her mother she had. That she never even got to see. Divorce is too kind,” one writes.Adds another, “I’m a widow and I’m going to be completely blunt here… I could not share my life with someone so heinous as to throw something so precious and irreplaceable. This. Is. Unforgivable.”
A man says he’s unsure how to respond after his current wife threw away videos he had saved of his late first wife, telling him he needs to “move on.”
In a post shared toReddit, the man writes that he has a daughter, Eleanore, with his late wife Cloé, who died in a car accident involving a drunk driver more than a decade ago.
The man adds that he met his new wife, Wendy, five years ago, and the two have been married for two years.
Eleanore will soon turn 18 and, as part of his gift to her, the man was saving his home videos from Cloé’s pregnancy.
“Since it was our first child we bought a video camera and made little tapes and snippets of her whole pregnancy. Wholesome things such as us just joking around or having lunch, or talking to our unborn child through the camera,” he writes. “We made a promise to [not] show Eleanore the tapes until her 18 birthday.”
But when he brought up his plan to Wendy, he “noticed her expression going from happy to looking a bit uncomfortable.”
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“Wendy would always get uncomfortable when I talk about my late wife. I don’t say things like ‘why can’t you be like Cloé’ or ‘Cloé was only supposed to be my first love,’ but I talk about her in a way to give my daughter a mental picture of how her mother was like,” he adds.
After he sensed that Wendy felt “jealousy” toward his first wife, he told her “that I love her just the way she was and she broke down crying.”
“The next day after that incident she came up to me and apologized for the way she acted,” he writes. “I told her it was okay and it’s good that she felt comfortable to share her feelings, and I gave her a tight hug and a kiss on her forehead. She asked to see where the tapes were at and I showed her the box of video tapes of my late wife in my closet.”
But one day later, the man noticed the tapes were gone.
“I looked everywhere to the point I walked downstairs to see my wife laying on the couch watching tv,” he writes. “I asked her about the box and she told me she threw it away with a neutral expression. My heart dropped and I asked her what did she mean, and she told me that I talk about her too much and that I need to move on with my life so she threw them away as a ‘head start.’ "
He continues: “I was fuming with anger because not only she threw away what I had left of her, she threw away my daughter[’s] big surprise. We quickly got into an argument and she noticed how angry I was so she started apologizing. It got to the point I started crying and locked myself in our bedroom.”
Now, the man writes that he is ignoring his wife, who is “texting nonstop about how sorry she is.”
“It’s getting to the point our mutual friends are texting me to accept her apology and get over it since Cloé died over 10 years ago but I’m trying to ignore them all because they never had someone so close to them died,” he writes, adding that he’s worried he’s “overreacting.”
But Reddit users disagree, arguing that Wendy was entirely at fault.
“She robbed a daughter of the only small piece of her mother she had. That she never even got to see. Divorce is too kind,” one writes.
Adds another, “I’m a widow and I’m going to be completely blunt here… I could not share my life with someone so heinous as to throw something so precious and irreplaceable. This. Is. Unforgivable.”
source: people.com
