Katie Thurstonshared a pointed post about “gaslighting” following her andGreg Grippo’s messy breakup duringMonday’s episodeofThe Bachelorette.After it aired, Thurston, 30, shared anApril postfrom the account@soyouwanttotalkabouton her Instagram Story titled “So You Want to Talk About Gaslighting.” The first slide defines the term as “a form of emotional abuse and psychological manipulation involving distorting the truth in order to confuse or instill doubt in another person to the point [where] they question their own sanity or reality.“Subsequent slides list different gaslighting methods — lying, discrediting, deflecting blame, minimizing, shifting blame, denying wrongdoing, using compassion as a weapon and rewriting history — and provide tips to protect oneself against manipulation.Katie Thurston/InstagramThough Thurston didn’t mention Grippo,Bacheloretteco-hostKaitlyn Bristowedebated whether he was “gaslighting Katie” during the episode in a series of videos on her own Instagram Story.Bristowe, 36, said there are “so many different angles” to consider when it comes to how things went down between the two. “It’s crazy how divided it is between [people supporting] Katie and Greg, that whole situation, which I knew it would be,” she remarked.“There’s so many people who could say, ‘Oh, wow, Greg was pouring out his heart and Katie didn’t know how to respond,'” she continued. “And there’s so many people who are like, ‘Katie has given him reassurance this whole season and, you know, she was trying to listen in that moment.“Will you accept this rose? Sign up forPEOPLE’s free weekly Bachelor Nation newsletterto get the latest news onThe Bachelor, The Bacheloretteand everything in between.Craig Sjodin/ABCBristowe ultimately said that “nobody’s right, nobody’s wrong [and] it’s all how we feel.“During the episode, Thurston and Grippo’s hometown date got off to a good start with him bringing his New Jersey beach town to her. When she met his family, she told his mother that he was her “frontrunner” and that they were “really just this perfect match.“But later that evening, an argument ensued after Thurston didn’t say “I love you” back to Grippo. “I just need you to trust in our relationship,” she told him — though it wasn’t enough.He headed back to her room the next day for answers, and she told him that she hadn’t told any of the remaining men that she loved them. Still, Grippo wanted some sort of response to his profession of love. “You didn’t even acknowledge what I said to you,” he said. “You completely mowed over it.“Before ending their relationship, Grippo said: “There’s obviously a disconnect here. It’s, like, clear. That’s obvious. As much as it hurts me, I’ve reached my breaking point with this. I gave you everything and I really hope you find something.“Thurston chased after him, but he stood firm on his position to leave. She now enters the finale withBlake MoynesandJustin Glaze.The Bacheloretteairs Mondays (8 p.m. ET) on ABC.
Katie Thurstonshared a pointed post about “gaslighting” following her andGreg Grippo’s messy breakup duringMonday’s episodeofThe Bachelorette.
After it aired, Thurston, 30, shared anApril postfrom the account@soyouwanttotalkabouton her Instagram Story titled “So You Want to Talk About Gaslighting.” The first slide defines the term as “a form of emotional abuse and psychological manipulation involving distorting the truth in order to confuse or instill doubt in another person to the point [where] they question their own sanity or reality.”
Subsequent slides list different gaslighting methods — lying, discrediting, deflecting blame, minimizing, shifting blame, denying wrongdoing, using compassion as a weapon and rewriting history — and provide tips to protect oneself against manipulation.
Katie Thurston/Instagram
Though Thurston didn’t mention Grippo,Bacheloretteco-hostKaitlyn Bristowedebated whether he was “gaslighting Katie” during the episode in a series of videos on her own Instagram Story.
Bristowe, 36, said there are “so many different angles” to consider when it comes to how things went down between the two. “It’s crazy how divided it is between [people supporting] Katie and Greg, that whole situation, which I knew it would be,” she remarked.
“There’s so many people who could say, ‘Oh, wow, Greg was pouring out his heart and Katie didn’t know how to respond,'” she continued. “And there’s so many people who are like, ‘Katie has given him reassurance this whole season and, you know, she was trying to listen in that moment.”
Will you accept this rose? Sign up forPEOPLE’s free weekly Bachelor Nation newsletterto get the latest news onThe Bachelor, The Bacheloretteand everything in between.
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Bristowe ultimately said that “nobody’s right, nobody’s wrong [and] it’s all how we feel.”
During the episode, Thurston and Grippo’s hometown date got off to a good start with him bringing his New Jersey beach town to her. When she met his family, she told his mother that he was her “frontrunner” and that they were “really just this perfect match.”
But later that evening, an argument ensued after Thurston didn’t say “I love you” back to Grippo. “I just need you to trust in our relationship,” she told him — though it wasn’t enough.
He headed back to her room the next day for answers, and she told him that she hadn’t told any of the remaining men that she loved them. Still, Grippo wanted some sort of response to his profession of love. “You didn’t even acknowledge what I said to you,” he said. “You completely mowed over it.”
Before ending their relationship, Grippo said: “There’s obviously a disconnect here. It’s, like, clear. That’s obvious. As much as it hurts me, I’ve reached my breaking point with this. I gave you everything and I really hope you find something.”
Thurston chased after him, but he stood firm on his position to leave. She now enters the finale withBlake MoynesandJustin Glaze.
The Bacheloretteairs Mondays (8 p.m. ET) on ABC.
source: people.com
